A dating expert has shared how a stranger asked her out and everything he did right.
Simone Grossman, an artist and matchmaker for US-based matchmaking company Three Day Rule, shared her most recent dating experience on TikTok.
In a video that has been viewed more than 240,000 times, Simone explained that whilst waiting for a friend in a park, a man had approached her and asked her out.
The man gave off good vibes from the start as he stayed “around eight feet away” from her throughout the entire interaction.
Simone said: “I didn’t feel uncomfortable. I felt like he was respecting my personal space, he wasn’t presumptuous in any way.”
His opening line also went down well with Simone as he complimented her “energy”, instead of her body or appearance.
Later revealing: “He was talking about how it looked like I was meditating/ in the midst of a deep contemplation lol.”
She continued: “His opener or intro also gave me an ‘out’ so that if I felt like I didn’t want to talk, he wasn’t pressuring me.”
The stranger also waited until Simone’s friend turned up before he asked for her number.
“Which again is a really lovely move because it further alleviated any pressure that I might have felt,” she said.
“And I’m sure he intuitively knew that I would feel safer telling him ‘yes’ or ‘no’ because my friend was there to witness the whole thing.”
Simone assured men viewing the video that they don’t have to follow these specific steps when they approach someone to ask them out on a date, but she said it was a great example of how it should be done.
Since being posted, the video has racked up more than 40,000 likes and 1,000 comments from divided viewers, many of which agreed with Simone’s opinion.
One person said: “Thanks for the advice! I’ve been thinking about doing the same for over a month now but I still haven’t, partly not to make someone uncomfortable.”
Another wrote: “Noted. Try to be more respectful in general, give space, make a human connection.”
“It’s good for guys to understand how important it is to make a woman know she is safe. Many guys don’t get that,” said a third person.
But there were a few people who weren’t convinced by the strategy, as one person said: “Too complicated, I would have said f that and moved on.”
Whilst someone else added: “No it’s the complete BS. There are one million other women (who) would find it insulting & cringe-worthy to talk about ‘energy’.”